Chronic illness can take many forms, not just cancer. It could be a 16 year old with no definite diagnosis after 9 months of illness and having been hospitalized, on a feeding tube and still going to specialists, a 48-year-old woman who had a stroke while going for a swim training for a triathlon, a 73-year-old grandmother who dislocated both shoulders while dogsledding finding herself completely at the mercy of others for her care in an instant. Often there is a rush of help at the onset of “the news,” and then it tapers before long.
People may not realize how much help may still be needed or may be uncomfortable asking about helping. Communication can be difficult to coordinate. The affected person may be too tired or unable to ask for assistance.
It’s important to realize that the person who is ill or injured is not the only one affected. Anyone they live with is also impacted.
Here are five ways you can offer support:
1. Ask for any specific needs.
This might be difficult for some people to answer. Try not to push if someone doesn’t have an answer. Ask again in another week or two, and then keep asking (gently.)
2. Offer to go grocery shopping.
Everyone needs to eat and this is a task that can be exhausting. The alternative of eating out can be costly and unhealthy.
3. Offer to provide a meal plan.
If you have nutritional training, you could plan meals to support the health of your friend taking into account their nutritional needs.
4. Offer to prepare several meals.
After a day at the hospital for appointments or treatments, coming home to a prepared meal would be a treat. For someone who is incapacitated, any prepared meal would be a blessing.
5. Send a note or call regularly.
A few words can do wonders to lift spirits. Recognizing others makes them feel special and loved. In today’s society, we have e-mail, texting, tweets, mail, phones, Facebook and more as means to reach out and let someone know we are thinking about them and wishing them well.
Even if you only pick one of these suggestions, it will make a positive impact in someone’s life. It will make a difference in yours also. There’s a quote from Buddha that I think sums it up well: “Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
Make-and-Take Recipe Idea
A great recipe to make to take to someone is Cinnamon Chia Pudding. It’s a great comfort food, super yummy and accommodates most dietary restrictions. It has an amazing cinnamon and vanilla scent that is very aromatic. The type of non-dairy milk you use will affect the creaminess, so if you want it to be really creamy, try a full-fat coconut or cashew milk. The syrup can be increased if additional sweetness is desired. This can be a breakfast, snack or dessert. The chia seed has amazing health benefits, most notably omega-3s and fibre.Print